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You have just been told secretly he is a BF and a quiet pig. The fight the one you think started it all he let that happen and then used it as the excuse to indulge. If I were you, I would go into it with a clear mind. Calm yourself down as much as you can before you confront him about it so that you don't get too angry or upset. You need to be able to watch his reaction and see the whole story.
Maybe he is doing it to just have friends. Maybe he's having cyber sex with these people--but it's up to you to draw the line with what you are okay with and not. That being said, don't make any rash decisions. He may be very sorry or embarrassed. It may have been a thoughtless mistake that escalated into something else. Hi Norma2, welcome to the forum, watch the dates two years ago was the posting date of this forum. Unlikely this advice went to anyone who cared. If you are telling anyone it is normal to have a cyber anything, I think you need to PM me to cleanse your own relationship and tell me what you are on this site for and why you are okay'ing a man cheating.
I really need to talk to someone about my almost 10 year relationship and what I found. Is there a private email address. I think it is a GREAT idea to post your photo with the exact same profile as he has done on POF and see how he responds. I had an ex who constantly spoke about his ex. Eventually one day I took out my photo album where there were many pictures of old boyfriends and casually flipped through it.
He did not like it at all. I never heard him mention his ex after that. But I would definitely use this as a jumping off point for discussion with your boyfriend.
Why is he on the Internet? Why is he with you? If you are just a temporary girl in his mind, you will get more hurt later down the road. But I would definitely give him a taste of his own medicine and do not be afraid. If he comes off all defensive and accuses you of invading his privacy, you will know what kind if man you have on your hands - one who is not fully appreciative of you.
See what he does. Maybe he will straighten up. If not, dump him if he shows you that he really does not appreciate you. You are the first prize, not the consolation prize. Good Luck. Be brave. You are worth it. My boyfriend of 7 years is doing the same and on the same website we had a break for a while and now he is on so many talking to everybody its the worst feeling. You need to realise if he loved you. Why is he talking to someone else instead of you? Firstly he didn't get a number off someone or walking down the street bumped into someone.
He went looking for something. Yes oh he says he loves me. But suddenly you will slowly check his phone. Ask him what he is doing? Who he is talking to?
TRUST is the biggest thing in a relationship with out trust it's nothing. All this social media websites and affair website. What happened to good old walking down the street. Iyou can do better, marrying a guy or having children with someone you will say I trust. Nope He has just broken the vows before even making them. I say you can forgive someone but never forget what they do to your heart. My boyfriend done exactly the same about a week ago, I found him on a dating site so I made an account myself as someone else and messaged him, he even sent me his number, I'm still with him now I don't even no what to do.
And he gave you his number hello he gave you his number to a random girl who wasn't his girlfriend. Have you told him it is you? This kind of behavior is typical of a sex addict. I suggest you look up Sexual Addiction online.
It is very real and a huge issue, worldwide. For some people, it is purely cheating. But for many it really goes much deeper. The problem will only intensify. I trust you confronted your man. Sadly, if he has a sexual addiction, he will lie. He will say anything to avoid you finding out the truth.
Things can get so horrible if he is a SA and you stay with him without him being in treatment. I've been with my bf for almost 3 years.. we met on POF.. then came to find out we had mutual friends. It moved quickly, we were both fresh out of long term relationships. About 6 months into it I found he opened a separate FB page and was friends with other girls he met on POF..
as well as his ex girlfriends. Confronted him and he snapped saying he wasn't ready for a realationship.. We broke up for about 3 months, saw each other occasionally and one day he came back saying he loved me and he did want us to be together, I gave it another chance. Less than a year after that, I caught him with a POF profile, and a few other "hook up" websites as well as ad's posted on Craigslist for sexual encounters.
He claims he doesn't know why he does it, he is bored and that he would never actually act on any of it. However, he was exchanging phone numbers with these women. Every few months or so I caught him doing something similar. We had a huge fight about this about a month ago when I once again found him on POF. After long conversations and work, things seem to be going well lately until this morning I had a bad feeling and looked at his phone. His search history said "free singles in my area" I checked his call log and there were calls while I was at work and while I was sleeping to a local chat line.
I seriously think this is an addiction and some type of emotional issue. At this point I've truly had enough and am ready to move on. It's bringing me down and making me feel like there is something wrong with me, makes me feel super insecure. I'm in a two year relationship now and this is the first time anything like this happening to me. It feels surreal, I cannot comprehend how he can act normal taking me to family dinners go shopping and asking out other girls on badoo and registering on sites like toyboy warehouse.
We'be been living together for a year now so if a girl says yes let's meet up Surely he will wants to bring her home and do whatever. I just want to pack up while he is not here and leave without a word as I feel that he is going to literally just dump me one day to another. I feel that it's taking me down seriously. I have never been lied to like this before and it's shoking that there are people out there like this. He is on badoo saying he is single and lives on his own and constantly trying to ask out somebody.
I was also thinking that If he goes on a date I just turn up. I just need to see this with my own eyes. At the same time I could just join i and address the issue might as well while I'm there I'm telling you this will destroy your soul. My bf was doing the same and he DID cheat. You are sacrificing your own happiness for someone who clearly does not know what they want in life. Let him go. Move on. There is happiness out here and it sure as hell is not being with someone who is entertaining other women and lying to you.
Keep your head up, you can do it. Thank you for replying. This is the first time I'm talking about this amd nobody knows in my environmemt because I'd feel ashamed open up about it.
I have fohnd out that during the 2 years relationship there wasn t a period when he wasn t lying. I'm very worried about when it's over how I'm going to het ober this horrible experience and the insecurity I feel is crippling. I was at some point doing things that scared me because I would never do such thing. It was a kind of self harm which again nobody knows because I find it embarrassing.
I felt I'm not lovable and well.. hated myself for it. The start of your reply describes well what I d like to do. Leave, run. I want to go, leave without a trace don t want explanation.
Just never remember anything including him. Please see my comment above about sexual addiction. From what you describe of your boyfriend, he does have that issue. He needs help, but you can't make him get it. What you can do is seek help for yourself, and separate from him so you can heal. That may motivate him to seek help for himself, but that is his problem and his alone. Your boyfriend has never truly been with you.
He is emotionally unavailable, meaning that he does not, and cannot, open up and be emotionally open with you. That is the core of a relationship and since he cannot give that to you, it has been a shell of a relationship. It is time to see the truth, as it will help you begin to heal.
I don't believe that seeing your man with someone else is going to help you. All it will do is leave you with a horrific memory burned into your brain. It could cripple you further and make you feel worse. His sexual addiction has nothing to do with you. You could not have done, or not done anything that would have prevented him from acting out like this.
It is all about him and his serious issues. But if you stay with him, you will likely feel worse about yourself and then it does become your issue. Seek counseling.
Check out S-Anon and COSA 12 step groups for persons who have been affected by another's person's sex addiction. Thank you, Mary. A friend of mine called me this evening to tell me she saw my boyfriend of 2 yrs on a dating site. I confronted him and he said it was old but pictures and info were all current. I told him to get lost and that what he did is hurtful and cheating. She was obviously excited by all the likes she received ego boost and she made arrangements in the following days after joining to meet some of the men.
Although we resolved to continue after the cheating incident, the wound is still very fresh. The next day I confronted her and she told me she was very sorry and felt like a loser for her actions. so we still have yet to talk about the issue. When we do, I will explain that I can no longer continue with the relationship. My trust is broken and, even though I still love her, there is no future with someone who acts like this. If someone would have told me when I met her eight years ago that this would be how it would end, I would have certainly called them crazy!
I had been living with my boyfriend for Ten years. The first year he lied about being engaged to a woman in Australia. Two month ago he starts acting strange. He takes a weekend fishing trip that happens to not have cell service. On his way back I told him not to bother to come home.
He desires to stop and spend 30k on a travel trailer. We are talking and trying to work things out. He lies again telling me he is at home sleeping.
He was out drinking and purchasing flowers for four woman he sat with all night. Once I seen the photo and found he lied I blocked him for 4 days. We start talking again. He said he wanted to tell me something that might make me mad. He said he had joined a dating site. He joined this site after we split but only 1 day after saying he was not interested in dating or seeing other women. He said I was the only one. I am very upset about all this and he turns it on me saying I have trust issues.
We started the relationship on a lie and here we are again. I suggested a open relationship. He got really mad saying he could never do such a thing. He is not that type of guy. Yes, as hurtful as it is…. you have to move on. There is just nothing there anymore after that!. The excuses are lies. What gets me the most is how fake someone can be the whole time. Their loss. Hopefully, they find what they are looking for and stop using people in between.
So you can find that person that really is on the same page as you. I have personally suffered a fair share of infidelity by my ex-wife who had multiple affairs during our marriage.
I got a divorce after catching her in the act several times. Currently going through this now. This is about the 10th time i have caught him having inappropriate behavior online. Needless to say now that the holidays are over so is our marriage. Good thing we do not have any children together. Of course, he does not admit it! Hmmm sorry not sorry, but shady lying pos. How do you deal with it? Wedding was 2 months away, bought a house together, and vehicles, and now what?
I will cheat, just to get even, then what? What happens next? My fiancé and I dated for 14 months and moved in together before I found out that he was on about five different sites. I got the luxury of listening to all the sexting and Skype sex crap I was devastated. I am seven years younger attractive, and at the time he was about eighty lbs overweight.
We had what I thought was a an amazing relationship. He checked outta the dating sites and I let him off the hook with a firm warning and a few fights and tears. My intuition told me it was still in the air. A few months later I checked the phone bill and low and behold lots of early morning texts. Like he walked our the door and began texting a woman. Actually, a few women, a few really overweight gross married women.
I was crushed. Then the lies spiraled from there too. I contacted the husbands. I sent them the phone bills with the texts. I informed them off the searing dating sites etc. Then one woman had actually dated him prior to our getting together. Yes, and when I went on her Facebook page she had pictures of her inside his house.
Anyway, I made his life hell. He is completely transparent 3 years later. I check now and again, but not like I used to. The only reason I stayed was because he was honest about his activity, really honest. He was remorseful, for his actions, and he worked on himself and proposed. I broke up with him etc. I was brutal, but you have to do it!
Some men do it for their egos. I towards the end of my long term marriage dabbled I it too. No sexting just plain chatting but the attention is exciting.
If he wants yiu after effing around on dating sites then he has to step up the relationship to the next level….. sorrry dude your bad ,unfortunately he out both of you in this situation. Also, if your married and this happens downgrade the relationship until you see changes.
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